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Re: My Daughter's Gay
Posted by **murray** on Aug 19, 2013 at 7:23:20 PM:
In Reply to: Re: My Daughter's Gay posted by **backbeat** on Aug 19, 2013 at 7:12:58 PM:
** Let me preface this by saying that I asked her if it would be okay to be forthright to say this if and when I felt the urge to do so.. She gave me her permission. ..
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** She came out to us in late 2002....I think we were more upset with the fact that she had been lying to us for months. She referred to her partner as just a friend. Her mother and I could both see the intensity she would exhibit when there was some disagreement between her and her partner...It went beyond the normal range for friendship. So, we knew she was jiving us before she admitted as much. Her mom was more emotionally invested in the son-in-aw followed by grandchildren dream than I was...That was a process she had to go through...My main problem was that I felt I had a pretty good read on her emotional capacity. I was emainly with whether she had the tough shell to withstand the shit would encounter from the straight world...
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**But did we disown her or make any threats to do so? No. Did I tell her she would burn in hell if she didn't throw down her wicked ways as might be expected of the right-wing stereotype some paint me as being? Absolutely not.
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**We were there for her all the way and she would eagerly confir that, There isn't a doubt in my mind.
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** A lot of what we've encountered with relationships she's had are the same things we'd deal with had she not been hetero and not gay. We might not have liked a partner who was male any more than we liked her partner who was female The issues we had often were about control freakism, jealousy, personality clashes, , and so on...
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**We're extremely proud of her. She has stayed true to herself all this time and did not flinch when she was confronted with the demands of those who looked upon her life less than favorably. She's a mighty gutsy one and it's hard not to admire that.
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**She'll always be our brat and our door will always be open.
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*as it should be, without question and good on you for it - i will be happy when it is not even a thought other than a smile and congrats for finding love - live and let live - as long as it doesn't infringe on others - i have zero problem with marriage etc. - love and live life, help others/empathize, get out there, be happy and walk on...
I think problems her Mom and I had were problems that would have been present had she been hetero....She was in her early 20s and EVEYTHING was major drama and I mean everything. We were worried because she would get so upset over a fight with he partner and be out driving while she was crying hysterically to us over the phone... We had to worry often whether she'd make it home safely or not. That was much more of a concern than the sex of her partner.
Luckily, the drama factor had decreased greatly in the past few years. Too late to keep us from the gray hairs though.Followup Messages:
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